Monday, January 04, 2010

Mary Daly, radical feminist theologian and a mother of modern feminist theology, died Jan. 3 at the age of 81

From the National Catholic Reporter:
Mary Daly, radical feminist theologian and a mother of modern feminist theology, died Jan. 3 at the age of 81. She was one of the most influential voices of the radical feminist movement through the later 20th century.
Daly taught courses in theology, feminist ethics and patriarchy at Boston College for 33 years. Her first book, “The Church and the Second Sex,” published in 1968, got her fired, briefly, from her teaching position there, but as a result of support from the (then all-male) student body and the general public, she was ultimately granted tenure.
The full obituary is here.


Some of her sweet quotes here:

"You guard against decay, in general, and stagnation, by moving, by continuing to move."

"There are and will be those who think I have gone overboard. Let them rest assured that this assessment is correct, probably beyond their wildest imagination, and that I will continue to do so.

“Ever since childhood, I have been honing my skills for living the life of a radical feminist pirate and cultivating the courage to win. The word ‘sin’ is derived from the Indo-European root ‘es-,’ meaning ‘to be.’ When I discovered this etymology, I intuitively understood that for a woman trapped in patriarchy, which is the religion of the entire planet, ‘to be’ in the fullest sense is ‘to sin.’”

“Women who are pirates in a phallocratic society are involved in a complex operation. First, it is necessary to plunder--that is, righteously rip off gems of knowledge that the patriarchs have stolen from us. Second, we must smuggle back to other women our plundered treasures. In order to invent strategies that will be big and bold enough for the next millennium, it is crucial that women share our experiences: the chances we have taken and the choices that have kept us alive. They are my pirate's battle cry and wake-up call for women who want to hear.”

Saturday, January 02, 2010

The New Year Financial Planning File Folder System

I love a list and I hate filing. Part of my barrier to filing is there never seem to be the right categories or there are too many empty categories. I caught this list during a rare Today Show viewing the other day. It’s from a book called Start Over, Finish Rich which I don’t like the title of but I’m all for starting fresh and being secure. I’m doing my filing and purging today with the help of this list and thought I’d share this in case anyone else needs a little sorting help too.

Start with a 14 fresh file folders (13 if you don’t have kids). These should be:

1. ‘Tax Returns.’ This hanging folder should contain four file folders, one for each of the last three years plus one for the current year. Mark the year on each folder’s tab and put into it all of that year’s important tax documents, such as W-2 forms, 1099s, receipts to support deductions or credits, and (most important) a copy of all the tax returns you filed for that year. Generally speaking, you don’t need to keep tax records for more than three years, although some documents — such as records relating to a home purchase or sale, stock transactions, retirement accounts, and business or rental property — should be kept longer. I keep all my tax documents for at least seven years, but that’s an individual decision.

2. ‘Retirement Accounts.’ All of your retirement account statements go here. You should create a file for each retirement account that you and your partner have. If you have three IRAs and a 401(k) plan, then you should have a separate file for each. The most important documents to file are the quarterly statements. If you have a company retirement account, you should also definitely keep your sign-up package, because it lists the investment options you have — something you should review at least once a year. You don’t need to keep the prospectuses that the mutual-fund companies mail you each quarter.

3. ‘Social Security.’ Keep your most recent Social Security Benefits Statement in this folder. If you haven’t received a statement in the mail in the last 12 months, request one by going online to www.ssa.gov or telephoning the Social Security Administration toll-free at (800) 772–1213.

4. ‘Investment Accounts.’ This folder is for every statement you receive related to any investments you may have (mutual funds, stocks, bonds, etc.) that are not in a retirement account. Prepare a separate file folder for every brokerage account you maintain.

5. ‘Savings and Checking Accounts.’ Keep your monthly bank statements here, with a separate file folder for each account. Generally speaking, you don’t need to keep bank statements for more than a few months — certainly not more than a year. If you get your statement online, print out a copy and stick it in the file.

6. ‘Household Accounts.’ If you own your own home, this hanging folder should contain the following files:
“House Title,” for documents such as title reports and title insurance policies. (If you can’t find this stuff, call your real estate agent or title company.) “Home Improvements,” for all your receipts for any home-improvement work you do. (Since home improvement expenses can be added to the cost basis of your house when you sell it, which means a bigger tax deduction for you, you should keep these receipts for as long as you own your house.)
“Home Mortgage,” for all your mortgage statements. (Which you should check regularly, since mortgage companies often don’t credit you properly.) If you’re a renter, this folder should contain your lease, the receipt for your security deposit, and the receipts or canceled checks for your rental payments.

7. ‘Credit Card DEBT.’ Make sure you capitalize the word “DEBT” so it stands out and bothers you every time you see it. I’m not kidding. In my view, credit card debt is the biggest problem facing American consumers today. In Step 3, I will lay out a detailed plan for how you can pay down your debt as responsibly and quickly as possible. Right now simply create the folders — a separate one for each credit account you have — and keep your monthly statements in them.

8. “DOLP™ Worksheet.” DOLP stands for “Dead On Last Payment.” This is the system for paying down debt that I have taught for nearly a decade. I will explain exactly how it works in Step 3. In the meantime, make a copy of the DOLP worksheet on page 44 and put it in this file. (You can also download the worksheet from www.finishrich.com/DOLP.)

9. ‘Credit Scores.’ This folder is for your most recent credit scores, along with the credit reports on which they are based. See Step 4 for details on what these are and how to get copies.

10. ‘Other Liabilities.’ This is where you keep all your records dealing with debts other than your mortgage and your credit card accounts. These would include college loans, car loans, personal loans, etc. Each debt should have its own file folder, which should contain the loan note and your payment records.

11. ‘Insurance.’ Make separate file folders for each of your insurance policies, including health, life, automobile, homeowner’s or renter’s, disability, long-term care, and so on. Each of these folders should contain the appropriate policy and all the related payment records. If you have any employer provided insurance (e.g., medical coverage), include all the brochures and other informational material you’ve received from your company.

12. ‘Family Will or Trust.’ This should hold a copy of your most recent will or living trust, along with the business card of the attorney who drafted it.

13. ‘Children’s Accounts.’ If you have children, create a folder for all statements and other records pertaining to college savings accounts and any other investments you may have made on their behalf.

14. ‘Latte Factor®.’ Here is where you keep your Latte Factor worksheet. For some of you, this may be the most important folder you create.

THINGS YOU CAN PURGE/SHRED:
• Outdated warranties
• Outdated instruction manuals
• Outdated wills or trusts (provided you created a new one)
• Canceled insurance policies
• Credit card statements for closed tax years
• Canceled checks for closed tax years
• Old brokerage statements for closed tax years (unless they have cost-basis information you might eventually need)
• Old annual reports from stocks and/or mutual funds
• Old investment newsletters (some people keep these things for years because they paid for them — let them go)
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Monday, December 07, 2009

Women Owned Businesses: To Grandmother's House We Go



If you love Mexican or Sicilian (and soon Turkish) cuisine then is there a treat out there for you. To Grandmother's House We Go is a culinary tour company dedicated to bringing the students the most authentic traditional cooking knowledge available. Currently touring in Oaxaca and Sicily and soon to be adding Istanbul, these are hands on food experiences with real experts, women, mostly real grandmothers, who have the secrets to the traditional and classic recipes of their regions.

Founded by Chef Sue Baldassano To Grandmother’s House We Go was part of her personal journey to reconnect with the food of her grandmother and as an antidote to what many of us find contrived in restaurants these days. The tours to Oaxaca, Mexico are in February and Sicily, Italy are in June. If you’re looking for a vacation with meaning and learning, I don’t think you could find one that’s better. For more information, contact Sue B. here.

In the interest of full disclosure I should mention that Chef Sue B. was one of my instructors and the Director of Education at the Natural Gourmet Institute where I recently graduated from the Chef’s Training Program. Sue was a great teacher, cool, funny, no nonsense and passionate. I’m doing what I can to follow her lead as I embark on my journey in the culinary world.

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Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Esther Hautzig, R.I.P.


When I was about 12 or 13 I picked up The Endless Steppe and was simply captivated by the story. There are few books in my life that have had such a massive impact on me emotionally, in fact, this and The Diary of Anne Frank may be the two which have had the most. I read today that Esther Hautzig the writer of The Endless Steppe passed away at age 79 here in New York. I bought and re-read it in 2007 and cried and cried just like I did the first time. On the jacket it said she lived in New York and I had a thought to reach out to her and tell her how much her words meant but of course life took over and I didn't. I hope to go to Vilna someday (my great great grandfather was from there too) and think of her and how important her life was.

Obituary from the New York Times.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Women Owned Businesses: Restaurant Sant Pau, Sant Pol De Mar, Spain

Spain has been getting an extraordinary amount of culinary attention in recent years, in many ways because of the innovations of Ferran Adria at El Bulli as well as the visibility of Jose Andres in the United States. For the last 5 years, most things Spanish, Basque, Catalan, Galician, Asturian, and Andalusian have interested me and my recent completion of a chef’s training program has helped me focus my curiosity towards all things gastronomic. I took the opportunity on my latest visit to Spain to visit the restaurant of Carme Ruscalleda, Restaurant Sant Pau, the only three Michelin star in Spain owned and operated by a woman. It's in Sant Pol de Mar, only about an hour north of Barcelona on the train and it was worth every penny, every minute and every bite.

Sant Pol De Mar

We arrived a bit early to Sant Pol de Mar and as we stepped off the train and tried to sort out which way to find the restaurant, we passed Carme Ruscadella on the platform which doubles as the main sidewalk of the town. I smiled at her and said "hola" and she returned the greeting. I was already beaming as you can see from this pic.

Sant Pol De Mar

Once we checked into the restaurant we were seated at the best table there was, right in the middle of the dining room, facing the sea. The restaurant seats about 40 and it appeared as though it was about 3/4 full by the time service was in swing. We ordered a Cava (Carme's special vintage) and proceeded to be served with some of the most incredible service I could ever have imagined. Attentive without being overly so, offering explanations and guidance when needed, but never in a condescending way. We had approximately 15 courses and stayed for 5 and a half hours! On our way to the garden for coffee they took us through the nicest professional kitchen I have ever seen. I think any chef in the world would be jealous of a view of the sea while you're working. Here is a sampling of some of the pics, and you can see more here.

Carme Ruscalleda Cava
Vegetables on Rice Cream
Gamba Tail
Cheese Course and Contrasts
Kitchen

I was so struck not only by how beautiful the food was, but how thoughtfully and with what detail it was conceived. It was by no means cheap, and was not something I think one would want to do once a month or even once every six months, but a meal like this once a year is absolutely worth it.

Some notes:

From Barcelona, catch the Renfe Cercanias C1 along the coast to Sant Pol de Mar. I think it's about 7 Euros round trip per person.

You don't have to dress up but you should wear decent clothes. I don't think jeans or sneakers are totally appropriate unless they're especially dope.

You can order wine by the bottle or get a wine pairing with each course. We opted for the glass of cava to start and a Catalan bottle for our appetizers and main course. For the cheese course we had another glass of cava and a Catalan digestive marc de cava after dessert and coffee. The bottle was about 40 euros (definitely on the cheap side of their list) but was totally delicious and they didn't seem to think we were dumb for going that route.

There are menus in English, Spanish and Catalan. The waiters, sommelier and servers all seemed proficient in English with the guests who were American.

I can dream that I'll be able to return someday.

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Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Aerial Views and Pools

I'm obsessed with aerial views and pools. I'm super happy to be going to Barcelona tomorrow and see these, some of my favorites.






Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Punk Owned Businesses: The Tango Company



Welcome to the latest installment of rad people owned businesses. I have thus far concentrated on women owned businesses because that's what I'm into, but I'm also into rad PEOPLE and Carlos Cañedo is one of the raddest people I know. He is also a true punk, and the perfect person for the first edition of "punk owned businesses".

Carlos and I met when we were he was on tour with Rice and Bumblescrump, a wee 17 year old methinks. He was a rough and tumble bundle of energy, with an infectious sense of humor and passion. We began to play music in 1994 and have done so off and on for the past 15 years.

Within that span of time Carlos has brought the same passion for music to dance and has become an internationally recognized Tango dancer and instructor. About five years ago he began his own Tango instruction company, called fittingly, The Tango Company, which is THE place to learn Tango in NYC. He and his partner also perform in New York and around the country and world and should not be missed if possible.

If you've ever thought "hey, I'd like to learn Tango" now is your chance. Call Carlos and he'll hook you up.

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